Jul 15 , 2026

Comparison is the Thief of Joy: Jennifer Pate on Choosing Yourself
All Episodes Episode 14

What if the only thing standing between you and your next chapter is the belief that the ship has already sailed?

In this episode of Women I Want You to Know by Andrea L. Johnston™ Podcast, Andrea sits down with Jennifer Pate, a producer, author and former casting director whose career has been one reinvention after another. Jennifer danced professionally in her late teens, moved into casting and built her own company, stepped back to raise her kids, then co-created the Webby-winning web series Jen and Barb Mom Life and co-wrote the book The Mothers of Reinvention. Today she produces film and television, including The Runarounds on Amazon Prime and the feature Driver’s Ed.

Jennifer and Andrea trace a path that refuses to run in a straight line. Every chapter handed her something the next one needed, and she is candid that not all of it worked. The through line is reinvention, the willingness to shed an old version of yourself when it stops serving you and to ask “why not me” instead of “why me.”

The conversation lands well beyond career advice. Jennifer talks about the invisible labor women carry at home, the Gloria Steinem quote that reframed how she sees stay-at-home mothers and why comparison is the thief of joy. She and Andrea make the case that the work done inside the home is real, valuable work, that women in their 50s and beyond get to define this chapter on their own terms and that a circle of women you can be honest with is closer to oxygen than luxury.

This episode is for the woman who thinks the ship has sailed, who stepped back from her career and wonders if there is a way back in and who is ready to stop measuring her chapter against everyone else’s.

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Why "why not me" beats "why me" in every reinvention
  • How Jennifer turned a mommy and me class friendship into a Webby-winning series
  • What The Mothers of Reinvention teaches about shedding old versions of yourself
  • Why staying home with her kids was never a step backward
  • How the skills from one career quietly fund the next
  • Why comparison is the thief of joy and what to do instead
  • What Gloria Steinem told Jennifer about stay-at-home mothers
  • Why the invisible labor of the home is real and valuable work
  • How women in their 50s and beyond can define this chapter themselves
  • Why you belong at any table you are invited to
  • What a circle of trusted women does for your longevity

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